Glory is finally here! We were supposed to leave to meet Glory at 2:30pm on Monday but it got pushed back to 3:30, and boy did that seem like a century!! When we arrived at the Civil Affairs building, we walked in and saw the tiny little Glory wearing a pink headband. She looked so much smaller than we expected but as sweet as can be. Ruthie lovingly gave her hugs and was so curious about her new sister. Glory was welcoming and showed us pictures of her in a photo album given by her orphanage. Unlike Ruthie who came with just the clothes on her back, Glory came with a backpack filled with her belongings. Also, her orphanage set up a photoshoot for her and gave us a nice album with those photos as well.
Coming back to the hotel with Glory was such a new experience for us. She was ready for a family. She was ready to leave the Civil Affairs building in a hurry and was already calling us mama and baba, and Ruthie “mei mei”, which is younger sister.
Glory has been testing her limits with us from outright telling us no to any request, to yelling and screaming at the top of her lungs, to spitting out food, spitting in general, the list goes on. We are learning and continue to come back to the fact that this is her coping mechanism right now. She has been taken from the only life she knows, good or bad, and it’s tough. We fail and get up, but day by day, God’s grace is giving us the understanding we need to meet her where she is.
Ruthie has been struggling with this new sister she was so excited to meet also. Glory is a ball of energy, likes to poke at Ruthie, and definitely pushes all of her buttons. We are trying our best to show them both how to love, share, and be kind.. And also that there’s enough love to go around for both of them. This is a challenge also. Please pray for Ruthie and Glory as you remember them! ❤️
We went to Glory’s orphanage and it is legit one of the nicest places we’ve ever seen as far as orphanages and child care goes. They even had a motor room for special needs children, a computer lab, several study rooms, and the facility was large and clean. We stopped in the baby room, which stirred up so much emotion, as many of the babies had special needs. We stopped by another children’s room where the children were napping and we recognized many of our friends’ babies!
Glory’s best friend was in school so we weren’t able to see her, but glory was given a photo of her and she kept it in her pocket the entire day. We are finding that Glory was not very fond of being there at the orphanage and was ready to leave with us. She didn’t have any close relationship with any of the care takers, which saddened us but at the same time, made us all the more thankful that she was no longer there.
Meals have been difficult with the two girls on so many levels, and even going out has been a challenge. We went on a Yunnan Village Tour and could barely enjoy any of the sights with G screaming, barking, and walking off, and R crying, yelling back at G and just so much tension and emotion. That evening, after many tears and prayer, we saw Glory turn a corner in trust. She sat with us for bible time, prayed with us, and allowed us to kiss her goodnight. This morning she ran up and hugged and kissed both of us too. She asks us to pray for her when she gets hurt, by pointing and saying “blablablah”.
We are all learning and processing. The road to bonding and attachment is long and definitely not instant. I was reminded by many of my friends who’ve adopted from China that the child you see in the two weeks you’re in China is not the who that child is. We remember how difficult it was last year for Ruthie too, and she is a totally different child now. Right now, Glory is grieving in her own way.. And we are just praying for Heaven’s strategy in how to love her past this pain and make the transition as healthy as possible. My friends blog post on her experience adopting her two sons from China last year really put things into perspective for us: http://whereyouwantmetogo.blogspot.ae/2015/09/a-little-advice-from-front-lines-for.html?m=1
In a few hours, we leave for Guangzhou where G will have her medical test and consulate appointment to receive her US visa. There seems to have been an outbreak of the flu there so please continue to pray for covering over our family and the other families there.
Some photos from the past few days.. Thanks for your prayers, we seriously have been feeling them!!!
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:19