Now that we are experts on parenthood, with our entire one month of experience and all ;) we’d like to share some quotes found on Show Hope that resonated in our hearts.
“I’ve discovered that this act of mothering is my worship to Him right now; dying to self and delighting in them. There is failure. Oh yes. It is messy and sloppy sometimes; yet, [there is] forgiveness and grace and growing.” – Lovelyn Palm
“I’ll referee another squabble and pick up disparate shoes and coats and happily clean food wrappers from under the seats of our suburban for the God who whispers: ‘I love it when you serve them and no one knows.’” – Sara Hagarty
“If my chief end as a mother is anything less than knowing Him and carrying His glory in my life, I will walk through these years empty.” – Sara Hagarty
“However motherhood comes to you, it’s a miracle.” – Valerie Harper
“There really are places in the heart you don’t even know exist until you love a child.” – Anne Lamott
“The family should be a closely knit group. The home should be a self-contained shelter of security; a kind of school where life’s basic lessons are taught; and a kind of church where God is honored; a place where wholesome recreation and simple pleasures are enjoyed.” – Billy Graham
“You are never more like Christ than when you love, pray for & serve your family.” – Jim Burns
It’s been one month since we were united with Ruthie. Words cannot express how much we have seen God move in this little one’s heart. An excerpt from our IG:
“Completely by the grace of God, we have seen Ruthie grow in love and trust over the past month – it has been amazing to see. Many have prayed for her transition home to be covered by His grace and it surely has. She has crushed every stereotype we may have had about kids with #downsyndrome and we continue to learn so much from her daily! We pray that her life would be a testimony to the goodness and faithfulness of God to all. Happy one month, baby girl! We are so proud of you and excited for your future!”
The past two weeks (can’t believe it’s only been two weeks) have been what is called a “cocoon” stage, where it’s just the two of us and Ruthie, trying to get her used to us, life here, and showing her routine and normalcy, as much as we’re able. Every morning, evening, and through out the day, we pray with and for Ruthie~ that God’s love would heal her, fill her, and help guide us as parents. As of the past few days, it seems that she has turned a corner in her trusting us both as her parents! She will willingly let us help her, she hugs and holds us on her own, she calls to daddy to hold her hands to dance, she calls out for us if we leave a room.. This past Sunday we took her to church and she did amazingly.. We were shocked (in a good way!). A long road ahead but a great beginning, we would say. :)
This morning as we were getting her dressed, Ruthie just wrapped her tiny arms around my neck, pulled me close and said, “mama.. I yub-you”. Oh my heart just melted! In that moment, I felt the heart of God and how he must feel when we cling to Him, when we tell Him how much we love him, how much he means to us.. Just in the day to day, ordinary moments.. Sigh.. Our God is good!
We had our first post adoption interview that went well and a series of doctors appointments. We are so blessed to have the Down Syndrome Clinic of Children’s National right in our neighborhood…! Thank you, Lord!
We’ve been home a little over a week now and life is so different as new parents and especially for Ruthie. Coming home we knew that she would need some time to get used to us, her new home, new community and whole new life. Our adoption agency shared with us that adopted children show signs of stress in different ways- usually shutting down and being quiet or acting angry or agitated and having temper tantrums. While Ruthie is definitely showing stress on the angry side, she also shows much love and compassion – and that’s who we know she really is. We see that she gets overwhelmed and confused when there are new people around, so we are spending lots of time and home just the three of us. Bonding and attachment takes time & patience. We are learning so much! We pray daily that God’s love would help Ruthie to trust and love in return.
Here is a photo of Ruthie at her grandparent’s store, Ruthie’s Deli & Cafe!
And some snapshots of our first week home!